sister love


(c) scott morgan 2013

Scott did this portrait of us awhile back and I just discovered it on his iPad. We said goodbye to his sister Lindy yesterday. That was very very hard to do. Although we have been extraordinarily open with our story up to this point, there are many more moments now of the sense that words are not adequate to express the enormity of the situation. Plus there are too many facets to it…where do I begin. I am daily moved by the kindness of strangers, both here in Goa and globally in the blogosphere. I am bowled over continually by the outpouring of love and grace from family and friends–his, mine, ours– and unexpected places. My personal cloudbursts go unnoticed in the heavy monsoon deluge washing over Goa, washing over me.

Scott is beyond words. He sleeps much of the time but when he is awake he is fully conscious and all Scott. There were tiny moments of normal during Sista’s visit: the easy laughter and the ego-levelling banter that only a sibling can bring you, reminding you of where you came from and who made you what you are. It is a deeply rooted bond born of shared experience and secret codes no one else can decypher. Like the song from summer camp or the look on grandma’s face, remember? The rain beating down a steady refrain…listen…you hear what it’s saying. Remember me. Remember me, Sister. Don’t forget me.


14 thoughts on “sister love

  1. Katy – that is a lot of teeth in bottom picJ – nice- have a great 4th in Goa

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  10. “We said goodbye to his sister Lindy yesterday. That was very very hard to do.” So begins the blog post from another summer eight long years ago. I’m reposting it today in memory of Lindy Barnett . Saying goodbye to my Sista-in-Love again and it’s very very much harder to do this time. Lindy Morgan Barnett passed away August 1, 2021. Lindy embodied style and charm and loved her family so dearly. Her devotion to her brother Scott meant enduring a long arduous trip from Cleveland to Goa to spend a few more days with him while there was still time. Her then as yet undiagnosed schleroderma made the journey very uncomfortable and difficult for her. She came anyway, bearing love for us both and a sippy cup for her brother. Lindy supported me in my grief even though her own heart was breaking just the same. I have to believe that Lindy and Scott are united once again. Sista, I will never forget you. You were one-of-a-kind and you are deeply missed. ❤


  11. Friends who wish may contribute to the Lindy M. Barnett Fund c/o University Hospitals, Institutional Relations and Development, P.O. Box 94554 Cleveland, OH. 44101-4554 or the University of Pittsburgh (UPMC) Scleroderma Center 200 Lothrop Street, South BST; Room S726 Pittsburgh, PA 15213 Lindy M. Barnett Fund


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