The first thing your eye is drawn to as you walk into my home in North Carolina is this homage to Scott. It’s got everything from post cards to pics to paintings to ping pong balls tucked into a pretty metal frame. The next thing you notice is this large grafitti style painting. It was signed by most if not all of Scott’s colleagues from the furniture industry when they came to our goodbye party 3 years ago.
Walk into the kitchen and you’re confronted with the refrigerator. Laden with food and with mementos of Scott & Katy.
Wait! There’s more. As you wander down the hall you pass these two chiaroscuro pieces of art created by my friend Isabelle Bryer. The bear represents Scott and the mermaid and angel represent me. How fitting that this couple is depicted without color any more. I had not thought of that at the time I acquired them.
Scattered throughout my house in every room are photos of Scott looking at me. Most of the time I see his love coming at me from those baby blue eyes. Sometimes they look at me with accusation: FISHGIRL! Why are you still stuck in grief?! Get going! Paint! Write! Love! Be happy, be free, be the best you can be!
He is right. It’s feeling maudlin to me. How sad it must feel for others when they step inside this shrine to Scott & Katy. I’m going to do something about that today. Scott will always be part of my interior world. The shrines have got to go.
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This post deals with the ultimate clutter busting: allowing yourself to let go of ‘shrines’ created in memory of loved ones, thus freeing yourself from reminders of your grief. Be gentle with yourself. Do it in your own time. In my case, it is over 2 years since my beloved died. I am ready to pare down the memories so I can move on. Baby steps…Please feel free to leave your own stories of letting go of grief in the comments below.
LOVE THIS !!! >
Which do you love, Dan? The shrines or the letting go of the shrines? 🙂
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